Thursday, March 8, 2007

Macho men and Women

In the last few weeks I have been learning that the world is full of normal, ordinary people, who make mistakes, fail and do not have everything in control the way we always tend to portray.
I don't know whether this just happens to me alone but sometimes when I meet friends probably i was in school or college with and in a conversation for like five minutes I walk away feeling like such a joke and failure?
If this happens to you, relax it is all a lie by the way people build faces and walls to show what they would like others to perceive of them, they want to prove that they have everything in control and this does not make you a looser.


A month ago I met a guy I was in college with for a drink and in a conversation for like one hour man this guy had told me about a million and one things he has achieved since the last time we meet. People this guy did a thorough job in intimidating me, even though I am not a good candidate of intimidation, I mean I usually care the less but this time it kind a got to me, until I came back to my senses. . . . you know like the prodigal on and it downed on me that nothing was actually wrong with me. I literally had to count the many success stories i have about myself to be whole again.

Two weeks ago I met lady I was with in high school and she talked about her husband and 2 children (boys) for this matter and within like three minutes I felt like a failure just because I have no children to talk about? Well this feeling keep croping up but you have to keep encouraging yourself by all means and especially in the Lord.


You know the way suddenly everything you have worked hard for becomes irrelevant for moment, you get gripped with this bad feeling yet it should not even happen. People put on a show and if you want to know hang around them for a while you will discover that the same things that happen to you happens to them. Let’s not be too quick to let people set standards for us as to what success is and is all about.


You know we are in the era when people have become enlightened, guys keep going to school and most of all people have invested in the stocks, MLM and pyramids. Businesses have been doing much better because people have mastered the skills. Huge ideas keep flowing into the market and younger minds are becoming millionaires? This comes along with brags and a lot of pride talk which is good but is it truly necessary to intimidate people by your successes?


By the way seriously hang around for a while and believe me you will pinch yourself for ever feeling bad over a success story, for ever feeling so bad about yourself. People are ordinary though unique in their own ways, this uniqueness should not fret us, and it should not make us feel like others are much better than us.
I will say again that life is a journey and each person has their own path through life just respect your own and stick to it. Every person has a gift and a unique potential so again work on your own with all diligence and you will not need to wallow in self pity.


Thoughts by Sally Ayany

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