While several women spend money to abort innocent children there are lots of women crying and wailing due childlessness for genuine reasons! I know several people who are battling with this that is not so spoken about openly by many, maybe we assume the couple is taking their sweet time.
Well the society still demands and asks about children a few years into the marriage however not so many people will bluntly ask why children have not come, it’s a topic that guys are running away from. Could be that the percentages of people who are actually able to get children is becoming lower and lower by the day!
Just before I got married my husband to be, now my husband walked into this gynecologist clinic to have a dose of family planning tabs, jab or whatever else there was. It was pretty much of a disappointing visit at that time and I felt like the doctor had lost focus or was just not willing to help.
Let’s not forget I was extremely naïve and ignorant about these issues, sincerely I was doing it because everyone who got married that I knew of got these family planning staff just before the wedding. So I thought they were a must and after all I had a marriage a head of me that I needed to enjoy without children, at least not just as yet.
Ok back to the doctor, his first question was if I had any children? Then he asked me if I was truly committed to the marriage or wanted to test the waters and if things got bad then I would easily leave? Had not an answer for that!!! Eventually he asked why I wanted to prevent what I didn’t have and did not know whether I would have. SERIOUSLY!
Anyway I took his advice and walked out without any family planning anything and I am so so grateful I listened because I am sure I would be waiting to date trying hard to get a child. . . . Several women will attest to what I am trying to say. We all walk into these clinics get jabs or tabs and our lives just will not be the same there after.
Personally after losing TWO pregnancies, seeing them just slip off my hands and no one can explain why this continuous to happen I would advise get the children first then do the family planning. I am speaking from experience and seeing my friends desperately looking for children just because some of these family planning staff are given without proper assessment and they block their ability to conceive not for months but for years.
Today I was reading the book of 1Samuel 1, the story of Hanna and it’s never been easy crying for a child none the less never give up! It is always in God’s will that we fill the earth by giving birth to healthy children. All things do work together for out good and inasmuch as we may not be able to explain why many women struggle nowadays even with the technology . . . it shall be well.
